Save the Date: Jason Sings! "Live at Eleven"

I'll be one of many singers at Eleven Restaurant & Nightclub in West Hollywood next Sunday, October 7th from 9:00 pm - 1:00 am. The new event, Live at Eleven, showcases some the hottest singers of local and D-list notoriety with the backdrop of not only pianist James Lent and sax player David Olivas, but a full live band!

Those of you who frequent The Other Side where I perform live every Friday with James Lent will recognize such names as Bryan Hawn, Joe Hui, Tod Macofski and many more on the awesome roster of talent lined up for an evening of incredible live singing!

It would mean a lot to me that my friends and readers come out to this night in particular because if the night goes well, it could become a weekly event at the club which would mean a THIRD night every week I get to be booked as a live performer! So I am asking all of my peeps to please come out and support what will be a very fun night of entertainment for anyone who attends. Let me know if you're going to be there so I can look for you and we can hang out and watch the others in between sets. I'll get us all a big table or something if I have a head count beforehand! ;-)

Eleven is located at 8811 Santa Monica Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90069.

ASK JASON!

This is the first time that I can't seem to find enough minutes in the day to respond to all of the emails, blog comments and even snail mail that comes through my little home office on a daily basis. (Not because there is more than usual, but because I'm busier than usual.) Rest assured, everything is being read even if I don't respond and those of you with questions, I'm saving some of them for these new "ASK JASON!" entries.

So, here goes the first batch. Just a few from the last couple of days. Wish me luck!


Who is the nicest person you have met in porn? - Anonymous.

Blake Riley. xo L, J.

why do u sometimes go so long without updating your News Desk? - The Cool One

Well, recently because I had a cold, but sometimes because I get busy or because I just can't stand devoting any more time than I already do to porn. xo L, J.

Have you ever seen or met my ex Arik Travis? - Eddie Q.

I meet a lot of people every week. Don't remember him though. xo L, J.

Will you post a sexy picture of yourself in my comments section on MySpace? - Keith

Probably not. xo L, J.

I have considered killing myself. I have considered checking myself into rehab. I have considered running away. No matter what I do, my 26th birthday will be a disaster. I WANT a party. I WANT friends to come over and regale me with presents. I WANT the ice cream, cake, and other trappings that we associate with birthday parties. I WANT fucking Mylar balloons with HAPPY BIRTHDAY on them. I don't feel like I belong in this world. I want to belong. I want to be welcomed, unconditionally and fervently, warts and all. I want to feel like I matter to me, to my family and friends, to God, the gay community, and to the world at large. If I don't have those things, it will be as if I never existed. - Alex

"I want to feel like I matter to me." ... Start there. Start with the mirror. It's the only thing you have control over and when you take back your control, you will no longer feel like a victim. And by the way, everyone's birthdays almost always suck. Who gets mylar balloons?! Mine will be spent on a plane this year. xo L, J.

i love ur site and ur show. btw, do you ever wear tube socks? it's tight when guys wear them!!! - Jon.

Jon, I have a feeling you'll be thrilled to know I often wear tube socks. xo L, J.

Do you think Roman Heart will do your two new shows at Here and MJs? Do the guys like to fool around in the women's bathroom afterwards like they did with you at Mickys? That would be a great way to pay homage to them. Good luck. Bye. - Los Wolfes

I'm sure he will eventually. Roman actually stopped by Here Lounge last night briefly. No making out in the bathrooms though. Not for me, at least! lol... Ah, those were the days! xo L, J.

Is the new boyfriend James Lent? - Anonymous.

No, it's not James. And I don't know if I even want to use the label "boyfriend." We're still exploring and getting to know each other. We've just taken each other off the market while we do. xo L, J.

I like seeing you at Other Side on Fri nights. What are your favorites to sing there and what are you going to sing there this week? - Greg WH

Thanks, Greg! My favorites totally change every few weeks like they're on some sort of rotation with my heart but right now they are "Live To Tell," "There Are Worse Things I Could Do" and "Mein Herr." Not sure what all I'm performing on Friday, but I know we're planning on debuting two new ones: "Hanky Panky" and "Come In From The Rain." xo L, J.

Wow! Jason just looking at your schedule I am EXHAUSTED! How do you do it?Keeping it Fun and Real I guess,,Kudos for Stamina (& Talent) - Dewayne

Thanks, D. The truth is, I don't do it! lol... Something always seems to not get done. But I'm trying! ;-) xo L, J.

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Much More

As the summer turns to autumn and for some a new year begins, in my life I experience a new beginning both inward and with a new friend. One where I don't feel the need to wear makeup. "10% literal. 90% metaphorical."

I asked the universe for someone like my father circa 1990 and out of nowhere appears this gorgeous creature who I'd never picture myself with but I swear I must have met him somewhere before and neither of us can put our finger on just where. This Man who sings and knows the meaning of the blues, listens to everything Ella to Tori, loves a good drive-in, spends Saturday nights like I do watching Turner Classic Movies instead of going to clubs, makes me laugh and managed to show me for the first time what it was like to feel beautiful when I felt at my absolute worst... to feel complete and utterly comfortable in my own skin and not want to change one thing about me, about you, about the night, about the moment like being on some sort of vicodin drip. And now, I remember that feeling and take it with me everywhere so I can feel it always with or without Man around, with or without Man's word. But I don't forget Man showed me first what I had not been able to see since I was ten, by his presence alone much less these fantastic actions that back up his word.

For multiple reasons constant readers are already clued in on, it has been a struggle for me throughout my life to feel okay with just being myself in any given situation. I tend to feel more loved (maybe "adored" is a better word) when I assess the situation, then take a fraction of myself and magnify it to 100%. Which is fine for entertaining and performing, that's the very definition of it, but not in my personal life. And don't get me wrong, I've had others who have tried getting me comfortable with just being me around them. And I don't even know that this one is trying. It just happens for some reason.

You and your damned picnic basket. Who knew graveyards could be so romantic? Why you, of course. And just look what a mess you've made.

You're not likely to read this, but it's not really for you anyway. These pages are for me. I'll tell you in person and tell you much more than a mere thank you for being my friend and for taking me off the market for the first time since love was a thing while we explore a little bit more. I'll tell you much more.

"Conversation has a time and place in the interaction of a lover and a mate, but the time of talking, using symbols, using words can be likened to a deep sea diver who is swimming with a raincoat. ... I don't even try to explain, I just hold on tight."

Song of the Week: "I Want You" - Savage Garden

Dreams of All Kinds

I am at the end of recovering from a cold here and laid down for an hour's nap before I head out to MJ's Bar to host The Porno Palace tonight when I had this dream that Ginger Lynn (pictured here) invited me over to her house along with a whole bunch of other people. She apparently had made pigeon for dinner earlier in the evening and there was some left along with this interesting pearsauce (thing applesauce, but with pears!) that she said I was welcome to. But when I took a plate of it, she seemed really pissed off I'd taken her up on her offer because it was the last of what was left. I was all about it though because I've never had pigeon and am all about trying stuff like that!

Anyway, some other industry peeps were there too and I guess Digital Playground had fired a lot of people earlier in the day who were absolutely distraught. Adella O'Neal didn't understand how after years of loyalty and devotion to the company they would do something so heinous to her and it was rumored that they were going to be banning her from attending the AVN Awards. She was fucking beside herself. There was some hot straight guy who worked for them too who was drinking himself into oblivion and when I told him I was sorry he was fired, he just started crying and hugging me. So I kept saying I was sorry so he would hold me closer, of course. Heather Pink apparently was working for the company too (????) and she had taken to pills to get over the grief but kept spilling them all over the floor and found that they were getting lost in the carpet.

Yeah. It was quite a dream!

Gene Ross was there too. Transcribing everything.

Anyway, I have been amiss the last couple of weeks I know. I have been dealing with work and getting over a cold and trying to leave some room to study through Rosh Hashana. This whole week spiritually is about not putting limits on your dreams, remembering all that you're worth, asking for more from the universe and remembering that all is meant for you and is just waiting for the taking. Hence, my last two chosen Songs of the Week on my MySpace page: "Die Another Day" (Madonna) and "Flying Dutchman" (Tori Amos).

I have added an "ASK JASON" feature to the "Diary" at JasonCurious.com, which you may be reading also on MySpace or D-List, in which case you can just post questions in the comments section. I'll be doing response posts periodically because I haven't had a chance to answer all emails and comments like I have in the past. Sorry for that, but work calls and life happens all much more frequently these days.

Speaking of which, that's another reason I haven't been posting a lot of "Diary" entries. I haven't really talked much about my personal life for the last year. I have enjoyed keeping my private life private and keeping this soapbox to political commentaries, promoting my work or sharing my hobbies. But it seems now a thing or two has come along that I wish I was chronicling. Things that I know I'll want to remember a long time from now.

It's a fine line to walk though if I'm telling the story of my life honestly because it's only from one point of view and that's obviously mine. But I still wonder if that is fair to the other people involved in my life. Angel Benton tells me that's all part of what you sign up for when you're friends or partners with anyone who is even remotely a public figure. But the thing is, it can be prevented. I don't have to expose my private life or make it about me. I haven't for the past year.

But on the other hand, I know people come to their own conclusions about who I am and why I do things I do and it was nice to have a platform to explain my side of the story of my life.

So... such is the conundrum of the moment.

Anyway, I'm feeling better and I will be back to updating the "News Desk" blog as well by Monday.

Outside The Box

Okay, catching up. A little behind here.

Seven gigs a week Monday though Friday on top of the JasonCurious.com work and PR clients has proven to be way more draining than I had anticipated. Apparently, I'm not 21 anymore. The downtime I have is usually spent sleeping or catching up with friends.

MONDAYS
Hosting The Jason Sechrest Show at KSEX 4 pm - 6 pm

TUESDAY
Singing at James Games at The Other Side 9:30 pm - Midnight.*

WEDNESDAY
Hosting The Jason Sechrest Show at KSEX 4 pm - 6 pm
Hosting Porn Star Games at Here Lounge 8:00 pm - 10:30 pm

THURSDAY
Hosting The Porno Palace at MJ's Bar 10:00 pm - 1:00 am

FRIDAY
Hosting The Jason Sechrest Show at KSEX 4 pm - 6 pm
Singing at James Lent & Friends at The Other Side 9 pm - 1 am

* Tuesday's event at TOS serves as a rehearsal for Friday. If you can't make it Fridays, feel free to drop in Tuesdays when it is far less crowded and more intimate.

It looks like I'm going to be doing another interview for The Pixie Show's blog in the coming weeks. I'll also be in the next issue of Rolling Stone magazine for an article I can't say anything about until it hits newsstands on Friday, but some of you have already written in asking about it. And later in the month, I'll be on the cover of PULP Magazine with an accompanying article and interview on all the new projects.

So, now that the shameless self-promotion is out of the way, let's get personal...

Multi-dimensional. Duality. The gray area. I don't know when I stopped being such an extremist but it seems these days I can have a drink without having five, I can have a piece of candy without eating the whole bag and I might even make it to the gym later in the day. It's no longer all or nothing, but instead always something. I've always believed that without darkness there can be no light but there's an overall appreciation for it now that was never there before.

More simply put, my life is a lot more well-rounded these days. I think when I was completely submersed in porn, I stopped appreciating it as a viable source of income and just plain fun work. When it became the center of everything I was doing, it became the bane of my existence. This is why Chi Chi LaRue is also a DJ, in case you were wondering. It happens to everyone. Most of them just leave when it happens.

These days, being able to really make part of my living off acting and singing, what I came out here to do in the first place, has made me appreciate hosting porn events and working on my site a lot more. That balance was so desperately needed in order to really value both of those careers.

This has extended into my personal life as well. I was dating someone recently only to discover they were far more multi-dimensional than I had considered before getting to know them. Why this should come as a great shock to me, I'm not sure. I have a "persona" that I put on for work that is only a fraction of who I am as a person. But this person really has a firm grasp on being both the innocent, shy nerd in public and the wild, fearless whore in private -- and neither side is less genuine than the other. We all have both of those "people" living inside of us and to be able to embrace both really makes a whole individual. The church has done enough to separate the sacred from the sexual without our help. Rebelling by saying, "I'm not scared of anything," or "I'll fuck anything with a hole," is not really rebelling -- it's just proving right those who say, "You're either one or the other. You're either good or you're bad."

Of course it was the fantasy of the "nerd" that attracted me to him in the first place (I work with a few sluts, remember?), but instead of running away at the first sight of more than a stereotype, for the first time, I thought to myself, "Well, now what if this just means he has more to offer? What if this means you get two for the price of one? And what if he can inspire you to balance and embrace both of these individuals that live within you instead of feeling like they have to be separated?"

I've talked about this here before, the desire that us men have for objectification. It's why we like sex with strangers or sex on a first date, because we can make those people into whoever we want them to be in our heads. The second they show they are something less than what we wanted them to be, the spell is broken. I think most all men are like this, but you put men with men and it becomes a real uphill battle to be able to find truth and humanity sexy, flaws and all.

Outside of the bedroom, it's not just men, but women too who fall for this. If someone is an actor, we don't want to give them a chance as a singer. If someone is a porn star, we don't want to hear them rant about politics. If someone is a mother, we don't want to see her being a slut.

In the PULP cover story that is coming out on me in their October edition, there is one answer in particular I gave them that I was very proud of.

PULP: How do you keep your Internet show "sexy" and make people think at the same time?

JS: By not assuming that a beautiful person doesn't have any brains. By making them feel comfortable voicing their opinion about important issues without being afraid that they are going to sound stupid. It's okay to sound stupid, too. At least you're talking. And at least you learn from it. I think a lot of times people buy into the stereotypes that people give them. Sometimes someone wants to put a big sticker on your chest that says BIMBO and because that person loves you when you wear it, you think the world will love you when you wear it and you forget that it was their sticker, not your's.

We all make the mistake of putting some people into a "box."

The only thing worse is when we put ourselves in one.

Song of the Week: "Glory of the 80s" - Tori Amos, To Venus & Back
(Last Week's) Song of the Week: "My Posse Can Do" - Tori Amos, American Doll Posse (B-Side)

Silicone party Barbies to the left and Joan of Arcs to the right.