Jason & Mikey's Excellent Adventure Part III: Out of the Bubble

"My boyfriend's back and your gonna be in trouble. Hey-la! Hey-la! My boyfriend's back, he's gonna save my reputation."

He's baaaaack! I think it's safe to let the cat out of the bag at this point and let you know that I am with Mikey again. In fact, I've been with him for nearly two months now. No, no, don't feel bad! Our closest friends and family members didn't know either.

We decided we wanted to make sure that this was really happening before dragging people through anymore burning hoops of fire. My friends (not to mention my readers!) went through so much with me when we split at the beginning of the summer. We didn't want to tell everyone we were back together and then give them a call one week later and say, "Forget it. We were wrong. It was just a momentary lapse of reason. What were we thinking?!" Nearly two months later though, I think it's safe to say it's no fluke.

Another reason we decided not to tell people for two months is that we felt it necessary to continue establishing our own lives outside of each other like we did this Summer. We were best friends for five years before we became boyfriends and because of that, we went into it with a dependent relationship, living in what I call "a Will & Grace bubble." But by having this secret we couldn't tell anyone about for two months, we were forced to do things with our friends without each other, to make new friends, to have our own lives. It has been the #1 biggest help to our relationship and we hope to continue being "attached but independent," "a union, but our own person;" a gray area that is hard to come by. I got to a point where I didn't feel lost without him anymore. I just felt like a huge piece of my heart was missing.

Yes, I am aware that he has done a lot of things to hurt me, but I did a lot of things to hurt him too. And I don't think it was malicious on either of our parts. The bottom line is that this past Summer was one of the most miserable times of my life. I needed to go through it to learn how to stand on my own two feet and to reevaluate a lot of priorities, belief systems, battle my inner demons -- but I never stopped loving him or missing him. Not for one day. He is still and has been for many years the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. We push each other to be better versions of ourselves and I'm happy to say that in the past two months, we've become just that to each other.

Oh and by the way, don't worry... we still have an open relationship. Always! ;-)